Monday, December 25, 2017

How To Move On With Grief Counseling

By Jason Hughes


Losing a loved one can be extremely traumatic. You will go through many different emotions that range from guilt, anger, self blame and much sadness of course. This is not easy to deal with on your own. In fact, when you attempt to handle these emotions on your own, you may never find a way to cope. The pain will ease up over time, and it will even be difficult with grief counseling. However, with therapy, you will find that it can be easier to deal with.

It can affect you in different ways. Some people would be very close to their loved one. In the beginning, you will feel like giving up on life. However, as time goes by this will improve. The counselling helps you to set goals and to know what to do when you are feeling depressed or anxious. You will be relieved when you find out that there are stages of grief which is something that everyone goes through.

It can also affect you when you have suffered in your childhood years. You may have blocked this out. However, you never forget about the memories. They will exist in your subconscious. You may have suffered in your young days when a parent died and you were feeling abandoned.

A group is different because you will begin to identify with them. You can begin to share what you have been through based on what they tell you. You will connect on a deeper level in this way. Of course, different types of therapies are for different people.

When you lose someone like this, you can go through a range of different feelings and emotions which will go up and down from one day to another. Sometimes you will feel like blaming God. Other days you will become angry and blame the person who has died. Then you will feel bad and blame yourself and become depressed, feeling a lot of sorrow in your life. This can continue for days. It is important to be able to express this in therapy. Besides group therapy, sometimes you will be able to focus on practical methods as well as something more creative.

Being creative can help you to express yourself in more of a non-verbal approach. One needs to do this from time to time as well. It is important to do things like paint and draw and to include this into the routine. You will feel a great sense of freedom afterwards. You will release some of the anger and the depression. This is one way to help take control of your emotions and ween your way off of the medications. It is also the healthy approach. One must be careful not to turn to alcohol at this time.

You need to be aware that there are serious cases which can affect you greatly. Post traumatic stress disorder can develop as a result. If you don't deal with this, you will have a hard time functioning on a day to day basis. Working with other people in a group format is useful because you would have all suffered in the same way.

People who rely on this too much to help them over the next couple of years are not doing themselves any favours. You need to be able to talk about your problems. Of course, you need to be able to get into a routine. You need to be able to get out of bed, and focus on the practical issues. A counsellor will also help you with these areas in your life, because they are just as important.




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